There’s no one size fits all approach to recovering from trauma. The healing process is often a nonlinear journey full of peaks and valleys. It differs from person to person, depending on the degree of the trauma, how it’s internalized, an individual’s coping mechanisms, and the presence of support systems.

If you are on the road to recovering from a relational or sexual trauma, I want to give you some encouragement… If you put in the determined effort to recover and renew yourself, you can overcome the setbacks and pitfalls that trauma drags you into- and thrive in your life!

Here are 11 signs that show you’re on the way to significant progress to healing:

• Less intrusive thoughts

• Better emotional regulation

• Developing more resilience

• Feeling a sense of safety, calm, or peace

• Maintaining healthier relationships

• Increased self-awareness

• More engagement with life and pursuing passions

• Less hypervigilance or extreme startle responses

• Getting out there again and being social

• Working towards acceptance and forgiveness (whether yourself, someone else, or both)

• Seeking support (talking to trusted loved ones or seeking out counseling or therapy)

In my personal experience, I kept my trauma a secret for a very long time. It lead me to numbness and denial, social isolation, and depression. During that time I started wanting to withdrawal from my family, and distracting myself by adrenaline seeking. I felt ill on a daily basis and becoming hyper-obsessed with trying to heal from my “GI problems”, when at the root level of it all, I needed to be healing from the stress of the trauma.

Retrospectively, I regret not having opened up about what I was going through immediately during the time it was happening. I know that the people that love me would have been there to help me through it, and it’s a shame that I let shame of what I went through hold me captive to the shackles of shame that imprisoned me for longer than they needed to.

If you’re going through relationship trauma or sexual trauma, or if you’re on the other side of it, but continue to feel burdened by trauma, shame, grief, guilt and you’re ready to be free,… I urge you to talk to someone you trust.

Trauma can wreak havoc on all areas of life… but my cold hard truth is that at one point I just DECIDED… it’s time to be DONE WITH THIS. It was not an easy path, but everything changed with I decided to invest in myself and get coaching from a faith-based mentor whom I trusted. With the help of private coaching, I was able to redirect my life from dwelling on all the wrong things that were holding me back, and step into living as a recovered and renewed version of myself who has risen from the ashes.

Imagine a life where the weight of your past trauma no longer holds you back, where you’re in control of your narrative, and every day is an opportunity for growth, renewal, and fulfillment. I specialize in helping individuals like you break free from the chains of past relational and sexual trauma, and empower themselves to create the life they truly desire.

Are you the type of person who has decided enough is enough? Are you finished with letting the past dictate your present and future? And are you ready to take your personal development seriously and bring your life to the next level? I can help you take strides in your journey to go from surviving to thriving.

I can’t wait to help you succeed!